In honor of February 14, which I have heard has some sort of holiday attached to it, I have a question for those of you who are married, are in long-term relationships, or have been in them. Actually, ignore that: the question is for anyone who reads it–how much time should couples spend together?
A great deal of our free time is spent dealing with a crazed three year old, who is also getting very serious about stone lifting.
I never gave the idea of how much time we were together or apart much thought until there was another person in the house to focus on.
My own answer is…as much as possible as long as we don’t start to annoy each other. Enough so that the feelings are there and we don’t become strangers or roommates. Enough so that I’m always aware of how lucky and grateful I am.
Enough to know I have everything I need. And still I can remain content but not satisfied because every day we are together we recreate our lives and can usually make them better.
There is nobody I’d rather spend my time with, which is why we’ve been married for almost 10 years and are still going strong. There are also times when we each have to be alone or we’d go crazy.
So for you, reader–what has worked for you and yours? What hasn’t?
PS: Tara wrote a guest post on this blog about Happy Couples Spending Time Apart which you might enjoy.