Resolve, Not Resolutions: Guest Post By Lisis Blackston

by Josh Hanagarne on January 7, 2010

Lisis Blackston

Note from Josh: One day I’ll type an article again. Please enjoy this guest post from Lisis Blackston from Quest For Balance. Lisis is a great friend of mine and was one of my earliest supporters. Listen to her! (please)

“Do not wait to strike till the iron is hot; but make it hot by striking.” (William B. Sprague)

This year, more than any other, I have noticed a palpable excitement about the change from one year to the next. I don’t know if it is because it’s the start of a new decade, or simply because I am in the right frame of mind to notice all the optimists out there. But I know one thing: this year is different.

Now is the perfect time to stop waiting for something to happen. Now is the time to act, in a BIG way. Many of us have plans for audacious projects, and visions of powerful collaborations. We have new skills, new opportunities, new connections, and enough motivation to finally bring about some much needed change.

I, for one, have a little dream about spreading peace in the world by blurring international borders. It can be achieved, if we work together. The internet is the perfect weapon for our merry band of dreamers and problem solvers.

Are we unrealistic idealists? Maybe, but wasn’t everyone who ever orchestrated a giant leap for mankind?

Are there obstacles that must be overcome? Sure. They are there to test our resolve.

What’s your dream?

Just how badly do you want it? How certain are you that your dream is worth pursuing? If the answer is 100% then NOW is the time to get started.

“Nothing will ever be attempted if all possible objections must first be overcome.” (Samuel Johnson)

Maybe you don’t know where to start.

Do you know what you want to accomplish? Have you understood your heart’s desire? Can you pinpoint the intersection between your talents and the world’s needs? Have you even chosen your goal?

Perhaps you have, but you can’t quite figure out the entire plan just yet, so you’d rather sit and wait until you get all your ducks in a row.

Seriously?! Those darned ducks have impeded more progress than any evil force of nature or dreadful habit of man throughout the history of time.

Forget The Ducks!

Don’t worry about having the perfect plan that accounts for every contingency. Now is not the time to make every single decision. Right now you need to make ONE decision: start something.

Take a first step towards making your dream come true. Even a little, tiny, almost insignificant step will get you closer to achieving your goals, as long as you keep taking those steps every day.

“Constant dripping hollows out a stone.” (Lucretius)

I know I probably sound like a giddy cheerleader, hopped up on caffeine, but it’s because I’m THAT serious. I’m pumped. I’m energized. I’m striking the hell out of this iron until it gets good and hot. Let’s start some exciting projects, and make some dreams come true.

What is your big dream for this year, or this decade? What are you convinced beyond a shadow of a doubt is something worth pursuing? Let’s give it a name, and help each other get there.

If I can help you in any way to get a step closer to achieving your goals, please let me know.

This year is all about YOU.

About The Author: Lisis Blackston is a serenely balanced Kumbaya blogger, who is passionate about helping YOU find a simple path to happiness. Her blog, Quest for Balance, has become a community of idealistic dreamers and peaceful revolutionaries, hell bent on making the world a better place. If you need help, you’ll find it there. If you don’t, help someone else.

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Jay Schryer January 7, 2010 at 7:29 am

My dream is to help you achieve your dream of helping others achieve their dreams. Together, we can rule the galaxy!

Oh, and to publish a book. But you’re already helping with that :)

Dear Josh: Lisis is many things, but “serenely balanced” is not one of them, despite what she may have told you to the contrary. ;)

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 7:44 am

Shhhhh… that was supposed to be OUR little secret, darnit!!! Serenely balanced sounds WAY better than chaotic and unstable, don’t you know? ;)

I have NO DOUBT you will accomplish your book publishing dream, but I’ll definitely help you in any way I can. As for you helping me help you so we can help others… that’s the ticket precisely. It will take some interesting collaborations, but I’m excited to see where this will take us.

Thanks, Jay!

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Josh Hanagarne January 7, 2010 at 4:22 pm

I’m sure she’s a lunatic fireball.

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kip de Moll January 7, 2010 at 8:27 am

there does seem to be this incredible energy and enthusiasm around many corners, under such a variety of stones. It is contagious and sweeping us up together, ecstatic and unstoppable, one blog after another, one foot in front of the other, marching forward (dare we say it?) into a new age!

Go Lisis.

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 9:02 am

That’s exactly right, Kip… and I don’t know precisely what’s causing it, but I also don’t really care. When life sends you the perfect wave, ride it as far as it will take you.

A few months ago, my friend Nadia (of Happy Lotus) said we were transitioning from the Age of Me to the Age of We… and that’s exactly how it feels. I think together we can accomplish (and help each other accomplish) just about anything.

Thanks for being here! :)

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Tim January 7, 2010 at 8:50 am

Hi Lisis:

Wow, very nice motivating post! Thanks for sharing your thoughts and ideas here. My goal is to find a job in alignment with my greatest strengths and talents, which may include self-employment. But you are right, Lisis, about having all our ducks in a row. Sometime the “perfect time” never presents itself, so we need to push onward anyway. I need to remember this.

Lisis, thanks for a great post and thanks, Josh, for lining up a very good group of guests this week.

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 9:12 am

Hey, Tim! I don’t even know what “the perfect time” looks like… I’m beginning to think it’s a complete myth! I think those who have achieved great things didn’t even bother to wait for that moment. The only moment that is even real (which is as close to perfect as we’re going to get) is THIS moment… right now.

What ARE your greatest strengths, talents, and interests? Perhaps I can help you connect with others who can help you or join you in your mission. I’m an email away. :)

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Josh Hanagarne January 7, 2010 at 4:22 pm

thanks Tim. I’ve enjoyed listening to them all. But I do miss the sound of my own jolly wit.

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Michelle McGee January 7, 2010 at 8:56 am

I have decided that this is my year. I am working to banish any negativity from my life by practicing lovingkindness and positive thinking. My goal this year is to learn to be a bit kinder to myself. I believe that if I can accomplish that all other things will fall into place.
Thanks for this post. It came at exactly the right time, as I believe most things do.
Michelle
http://www.moxiemomma.com

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:21 pm

Hey, Michelle!

I’ve decided this is your year too! What a coincidence! And I think your goals of lovingkindess and optimism are a fantastic way to kick off this magical year. You’ve got my vote… I’m totally pulling for you. :)

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Christopher January 7, 2010 at 9:14 am

wow! Thanks for pumping me up with more ENERGY. That’s what i got from this post…ENERGY!

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:23 pm

Well, Christopher, that’s exactly what I poured into this post… ENERGY. I’m not usually a high energy, giddy kind of person, but right now I’m completely full of it (energy, that is!). I figured it’s as good a time as any for a pep talk since, most days, someone out there can use one.

Let’s do some awesome stuff together this year, ‘K?! :)

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Stephanie Smith January 7, 2010 at 9:15 am

Lisis, Can I be you for a little while? That optimism is so shiny and bright…
I think we all do feel the beginning of some change. As for me, I am taking steps – college online, hope to have my BS in 1 year. I really would like a new job before the year is out but I dob’t know if that will happen. Still, every step forward is one that puts the yucky past even further behind.
I also want to get my new blog settled. Got the domain name, just need a them and I seem stuck in limbo at this stage. We shall see.
Thank you for the inspiration and the beauty that is your voice with every word you write!

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:30 pm

Hi, Stephanie! You can absolutely be me for as long as you’d like, particularly if you’re taking over my dishes, laundry and cat crap shoveling because those really get in the way of my shiny, shiny optimism. ;)

If you want a new job before 2010 is out, it will TOTALLY happen… because you’ll take all the right steps to get you there. I’m sure of it… SURE, I tell ‘ya!

As for your blog, let me know when you get started and I’ll try to help you through the initial rough spots, if I can. Best of Luck!!

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Srinivas Rao January 7, 2010 at 10:13 am

Lisis,

I think that if more people had this mentality then we’d all be further along in our lives. There comes a point at which you have to stop planning and start acting. Fortunately with people like you in our lives we all are connected to resources that allow us to do exactly that.

As far as this year goes, I get the feeling 2010 is going to be a banner year and the beginning of a lifetime of massive success. I always find that I’m the late bloomer in the group of friends I have and the time has come for world domination :)

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:33 pm

Hey, Srini… world domination, indeed! This is the perfect time, when all the “kids” we play with are spread out all over the globe. How fun is that?! We could do anything, go anywhere, and connect with all kinds of people we never even knew existed. And the best part? We can do it while sitting at home, in our pajamas! This is an AWESOME time to be alive, without a doubt.

Whatever you’re running for, you’ve got my vote! :)

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Christa Avampato January 7, 2010 at 10:46 am

Hi Lisis! This is wonderful. I love that you are raising the flag to act NOW.

My greatest dream is to help children all over the world to get a quality education. I’m working on one little step toward that dream every day, and it feels amazing.

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:36 pm

Hey, Christa! NOW is the perfect time to act… it’s the only time we really have. This moment, right now, is when we get to start taking steps.

I LOVE YOUR DREAM!!!! You had me at “help” and “children” and “all over the world”. I’m totally IN on this mission. If you want to write about what you are doing and how we can help you, I’ll gladly post it on my blog so we can start getting some more hands on deck.

Have you read Three Cups of Tea? That is an incredibly amazing story of a guy that had this sort of dream… an ordinary guy, doing extraordinary things in this world.

Yay, Christa!!! :)

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Alison | Quest for Balance January 7, 2010 at 1:03 pm

Hi, Lisis! As you already know, one of my projects for the new year is to help make Quest for Balance’s 2nd year even better than its 1st! I want to learn from others and improve my technical skills so that I can provide all the features our community needs in order to collaborate and grow. :)

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:38 pm

Ali, you’re right… we need to start reaching out to others who have been where we are and can help us through our blog’s “toddler” phase. I suppose these guest posts are a start in that direction, and we’ll soon find the right people to help on the technical side.

Oh, and if we could get a really good writer for the blog, that would really be amazing! ;)

Thanks for all that you do, my Fairy Blog Mother!!

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Jen January 7, 2010 at 1:11 pm

Great reminder Lisis (happy happy new year btw :) )and your energy and enthusiasm jumped off the page! :) My dream is similar to yours in spreading peace so I’m aboard! :) I also want to help others get past what they think is possible for them and tangibly and practically achieve their hearts desires. Awesomeness! Thanks for the peaceful kick up the butt! ;)

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:41 pm

I like it, Jen… a peaceful kick up the butt. It’s a little like “tough love”, but the 2010 version.

I’m so excited you are on board for my peaceful revolution! I’ve started the initial planning stages of a .org website so we can coordinate efforts and have a bigger impact. I’ll be sure to call on you when I get a little further down that path. It sounds like you and I are on the same page, and that can only result in complete awesomeness. :)

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Lori January 7, 2010 at 2:08 pm

Hi Lisis,
Since I’m a part of your, “community of idealistic dreamers and peaceful revolutionaries, hell bent on making the world a better place,” you know I’m on board with what you are saying here.

You already know that I want to spend this year being in service to others, with grace and positivity, and to keep motor-scootering on my book. All this will come to pass – but I like how you put it – why not name it and help each other get there?

Shaka that, girl!

P.S. Josh, please take care – I miss you! While Lisis is an interesting and lovely guest – I need my power-KB lifter back! One arm pull-ups, ahoy!

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 2:46 pm

Hey, my sweet Muse (and fellow hippie)! Shaka that, indeed. We’re gonna do what it takes with these dreams we’ve named (world peace, service to others, and getting you published)… fantasies are fun and all, but turning them into reality is the real good stuff.

I’m glad we have each other to lean on. And I’m with you… I miss Josh somethin’ awful! I’m starting to go into withdrawals, for Pete’s sake!

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Josh Hanagarne January 7, 2010 at 4:23 pm

Tomorrow. I think you’ll enjoy it immensely, Lori. I’ve been in a foul mood and it’s been fertile material.

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Beth L. Gainer January 7, 2010 at 3:25 pm

This is a great, inspirational posting!! I’m totally psyched. My dream is not to allow negativity to get in the way of my dreams, which include writing a book.

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 3:33 pm

Awesome! I’m totally psyched, too!! Negativity? What negativity? That’s SO “last decade”… we’re moving on. This is the decade of unbridled positivity and unlimited possibility.

Your dream of writing a book starts today. Lori (that commented above) knows some excellent resources for writers, and I’m sure she’d hook you up with her faves. But the main thing is, you need to start writing, or KEEP writing if you already started. Just get it written, without talking yourself out of it with limiting thoughts. Once it is written, we’ll find a home for it.

This is your year… I can feel it in my bones! :)

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PrincessKate January 7, 2010 at 3:33 pm

All I want this year is to love, to find my soul-mate, to find harmony in my relationships and peace in my soul. Not too much to ask, is it?

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Lisis January 7, 2010 at 3:49 pm

You know, Princess Kate, it’s easier than you think. You just need to scramble the order of the things you mentioned:

1. Find the peace that is already in your soul (quiet the distractions so you can re-connect with the wonderful person you already are.)

2. Love yourself and others unconditionally, in a total spirit of acceptance and non-judgment, letting go of expectations.

3. Harmony in your relationships will naturally result from step #2, and will increase over time.

4. When you have found peace, harmony and love in your own life, your soul-mate will find YOU (and you’ll be irresistible!).

It’s not too much to ask at all. :)

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Lana - DreamFollowers Blog January 7, 2010 at 11:26 pm

Lisis, so glad I found this post from Twitter! This is exactly how I feel – find something worthy to pursue and go for it. We live only once after all. Even if you fail, who cares! You lived!

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Lisis January 8, 2010 at 8:13 am

Precisely, my dear Lana! We owe it to ourselves to start something, and follow it through as far as we can. If in the end it fails, so what? We’re back where we started. But, what if it doesn’t? What if we REALLY make our wildest dreams come true? Now THAT would be a life well-lived. :)

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Hayden Tompkins January 12, 2010 at 10:48 am

My dream is to get my child abuse business off the ground. Wow, that sounds awful…maybe “family advocacy”? Hm, I’m not sure anyone would know what that means, UGH. Child abuse advocate? Ok, now I just sound like I WANT people to beat their kids!

As you can probably tell, I’ve really been struggling with this. I know exactly what I want the business to do and how it will work…reaching the right people is my biggest issue.

You’re right, Lisis. Baby steps…

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Josh Hanagarne January 12, 2010 at 10:51 am

Hayden, you are trapped in an insidious semantic web, but it sounds like you are doing something that is definitely worth doing. Good luck with everything.

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Hayden Tompkins January 12, 2010 at 3:21 pm

Thank you, Josh!

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Nelia January 12, 2010 at 4:43 pm

Curious. What will your business entail?

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Nelia January 12, 2010 at 4:41 pm

Nelia Bradley. On board and reporting for “resolve” duty.

I’m a huge proponent of creating urgency and your appeal to seize this moment is duly noted as well as greatly inspiring.

My worthy pursuit for year 2010 : Consistency!

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Lisis January 13, 2010 at 6:26 am

Haha! Hayden, you’re a nut. Sorry it took me a while to get here… I was out watching AVATAR yesterday.

Hey, what about Child Protection Advocate? Or Child Safety…? Josh, you should be really good at this game of semantics.

Either way, you’re going to forevermore rock in your “child abuse business”. ;) (That really DOES sound awful!)

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Lisis January 13, 2010 at 6:27 am

Nelia, my dear, you have certainly been consistent with your desire for Consistency. You must mean SERIOUS business with this goal. I think a few emails are in order.

I’m about to go reply to the email you sent me while I was lost in Pandora yesterday. See you there…

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Earl January 13, 2010 at 8:43 pm

Hey Lisis – I know its a good post when I find myself reading out loud with my voice getting louder and louder with each sentence!

My goal for this year is to determine how best to use my travel experience to spark an interest in world travel in as many young people as possible. I want to help others become global citizens, to learn though first-hand experiences, as I really believe this is the answer to solving many of the world’s issues.

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Lisis January 14, 2010 at 7:43 am

OMG, Earl! I was JUST thinking about something like this earlier today. I recently ran across a super old notebook full of pictures, letters and newspaper clippings that belonged to my dad. It was from one of his adventures when he was in college:

http://www.questforbalance.com/2009/03/03/new-york-south-america-duck-advenure/

Anyway, the neat thing about the notebook was it made it clear that their intentions weren’t JUST to have an “excellent adventure,” but also to improve relations between students from the US and Latin America. It was a 1960′s version of a (pre-internet) global network. If you can think of any ways I can help you with your goal, I’ll be more than happy to. I’ll be fulfilling one of his wishes.

One thought, right off the bat is, if you haven’t hooked up with Jonny (thelifething.com) you probably should. He seems to be on the same wavelength as you, and he’s super driven, crazy cool, and an all-around nice guy.

I LOVE your goal for this year!!! :)

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