Comments on: Another Look At Coping

By: Josh Hanagarne

Josh Hanagarne — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 17:01:25 +0000

That’s awesome. Good for her.

By: Stephanie Smith

Stephanie Smith — Tue, 29 Dec 2009 15:30:20 +0000

Josh,
I posted that article link on my Facebook because I wanted my mom to see and read it. She has survived many thing from abuse to cancer and she has been a perpetually unhappy person for much of my life. Sometimes when you are close to someone who is surviving or even trying to cope, it is easy to drift away since talking with that person can be a real drain.
The key for me was honesty and balance. I let her “wallow” so to speak for awhile, then I try to turn the conversation elsewhere to give her other things to think about. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn’t but when you love someone, all you can do is try. I also found the courage to tell her if I couldn’t handle her problems at the time. If I was dealing with my own issues, I have said to her:”Mom, I just don’t have the emotional reserves right now to deal with your unhappiness on top of my own junk.” I was scared to say it, but suprisingly, she took it well and said it made her feel like I trusted and respected her enough to tell her when it was too much.
This Christmas, even though I have had the flu for the last 2 weeks, my mom gave me a card that showed she really felt upbeat for the first time in a long time. It was a great gift.

By: Beth L. Gainer

Beth L. Gainer — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 19:04:55 +0000

I think there’s an ebb and flow. Sometimes we just need to cope until we start toward a more proactive path. I want to give up my pity parties, but I know I also need them as a rest stop until I propel myself forward again.

The topics of books your patrons check out is haunting. It sounds like so many people out there are looking for that easy fix. I wish they knew that there isn’t one.

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By: Srinivas Rao

Srinivas Rao — Mon, 28 Dec 2009 04:04:08 +0000

Josh,

I think when we try only to survive we really don’t put our best foot forward. It’s almost as though we are dealing with the symptoms rather than the cause.