Most Sundays I’ll be taking a look at an older post in light of recent events.
Coping Is Not The Answer resonated with a lot of readers. If you read it, you may have recognized something of yourself in the post. It remains one of my most popular posts, and I don’t expect that to change, unless all of our problems and pain vanish.
My job at the library is to answer questions. Often those questions are as simple as helping people find a specific book. But let me tell you, people’s insecurities are laid barer than bare when they come looking for books to help them in their lives.
My floor is all non-fiction. Today I was asked for help finding books on:
- Meth addiction
- Recovering from incest
- Fighting thoughts of suicide
- Terminating a pregnancy
- Weight loss (several times)
- Curing anti-social personality disorders
- Reviving a marriage
- Ending a marriage
- Revealing homosexuality to one’s parents
Not every question is as big as these, but these are all very common for me. Each person asking is seeking help. It’s a privilege to be a tiny middleman between a huge problem and a potential solution.
From my own experience, books about surviving have never been the answer. At best, they taught me to survive. Survival is important, but I believe it is also important to move out of survival mode as soon as possible. It is hard to find joy when I am just trying to make it through another day.
Asking for help is a start. Reading and study are logical next steps. But if you are struggling to make progress and deal with pain, please ensure that asking and reading are not the final steps.
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