This is a guest post from Jared Yellin, motivational speaker, writer, laid-back guy. He’s got some interesting things to say about the good and bad of perception. Enjoy!
By Jared Yellin
Life is fantastic.
Iin every situation, conversation, and interaction in our lives, we are able to learn lessons that will etch a mark on our identity forever.
Each incident becomes part of who we are as an individual and dictates how we will make decisions as we progress. But with every decision comes a choice that will either take us in the direction of our ideal life, or potentially down a path that is completely undesirable.
And what dictates our next step is something that I like to refer to as our P.O.P, or in other words, our power of perspective.
Power of Perspective
This theme is something that everyone will be able to relate to, and hopefully adopt into their lives, because our P.O.P is something that has been a part of our existence since we entered the world.
When we were children, our world seemed so large and our problems seemed so small, but on the contrary, when we became adults, our world became so small and our problems became so large.
Think back to elementary school and how the hallways stretched in all directions for miles; and how the tire playground seemed like Mt. Everest; and how someone that was in high school appeared to be an adult.
But if you go back and visit your elementary school today, you would realize that the hallways only seemed gigantic when compared to your little body; that you are able to reach the top of the highest tire while standing on the ground; and that the high school students actually appear to be children in your eyes.
The world was colossal based on our perspective of the surrounding environment. In addition, although our world was immense in size, our problems were petty—we did poorly on an exam, we got denied by our secret admirer, or we were chosen last in gym class. When these occurrences took place, the challenges seemed to be insurmountable, but I guarantee that as time has gone on they have become part of a distant memory.
On the contrary, as we reach adulthood, the dilemmas which surface in our world tend to result in a feeling of stagnation, claustrophobia, and the perspective that we are no longer living the life that we create for ourselves. There are five areas where this tends to surface in the lives of people, but there is also a fundamental solution that will enable you to POP out of it:
When two or more people define themselves as in a relationship of any kind, there is always the chance that problems could begin to surface because emotions are now present.A perfect example could take place in a marriage where the couple has lost their internal spark which keeps the relationship alive.
Possible Solution: think about why this relationship began in the first place? What emotions existed during the honeymoon phase? How did it feel if/when you had children?
When did the relationship go astray? Once you answer these questions, I encourage you to take action on the responses by shifting your perspective from a relationship without passion, to one filled with love, intimacy, and a newfound sense of excitement.
As people progress with their career,their job can become their identity. The result is a feeling of emptiness and lack of self worth because you start to associate yourself with whatever role it is that you are assigned.
Solution: find something that enables you to lose track of time.
This could be a hobby, time with your family, traveling, exercise, sports, or simply doing nothing and just being. Whatever activity that you choose must be included in your day for AT LEAST 30 minutes during the week and for an hour each weekend.
Your career does not necessarily need to be what you are passionate about, but something must leave you feeling fulfilled on a daily basis.
When people begin to feel unworthy in their lives, they can start to gain or lose weight because this is an area they feel that they can control.
Possible solution: one that I found works extremely well is to join a support group or develop a one-on-one coaching relationship. My research proves that this challenge has little to do with your physical image, but rather focuses on the emotional barriers in your life.
Most people do not enjoy voyaging alone, which is why a group or coach could empower you to shift your perspective.
Addictions can come in many forms including the abuse of drugs or alcohol, spending money outside of our means, self-injury, depression, and anything else that steals our identity.
Possible Solution: Create a personal balance sheet where the assets represent their accomplishments and the liabilities are goals that have yet to be achieved.
I guarantee that if you are honest with yourself, your assets will far outweigh your liabilities, which should shift your perspective and enable you to be proud of the “who you are.”
We are all faced with minor events in our lives that result in frustration, anger, and animosity. But the key to overcoming these issues, and the only solution, is to realize that you cannot control the external events in your life, but you can control your perspective and interpretation of them.
Take a deep breath, calm down, and understand that reacting in a negative manner will bring exactly that into your world –negativity.
Become conscious of whatever is holding you back from reaching the next echelon in your existence by creating a list of challenges that seem to overwhelm you in your everyday life.
This could be a relationship with a difficult child because they are “at that age,” your to-do list which continues to grow, frustrations in your career, being overweight, financial hardships due the poor economic times, or anything else that would fall into the five categories from above.
Now picture yourself 10, 20, and 30 years from now when all of these “challenges” will become distant memories. Once you are able to become mindful of your problems and the ways to make them appear to be “small,” I want you to begin to realize, the same way that you did when you were a child, that your world has the potential to be an extremely large place, with endless opportunities, that stretch as far and wide as the hallways did while in elementary school. This is why it is critical to use your POWER of PERSPECTIVE to guide you on your journey through life.
So, in closing, it is time to use your P.O.P and realize that your problems are only as small as you allow them to be, while your world is only as large as your ability to dream.
About The Author: Jared Yellin is a motivational speaker, writer, and the founder of Brandentity LLC., which focuses on combining your BRAND + IDENTITY in order to empower you to realize what makes you…you.