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Power Of Perception – Guest Post By Jared Yellin

Jared Yellin

Jared Yellin

This is a guest post from Jared Yellin, motivational speaker, writer, laid-back guy.  He’s got some interesting things to say about the good and bad of perception.  Enjoy!

By Jared Yellin

Life is fantastic.

Iin every situation, conversation, and interaction in our lives, we are able to learn lessons that will etch a mark on our identity forever.

Each incident becomes part of who we are as an individual and dictates how we will make decisions as we progress. But with every decision comes a choice that will either take us in the direction of our ideal life, or potentially down a path that is completely undesirable.

And what dictates our next step is something that I like to refer to as our P.O.P, or in other words, our power of perspective.

Power of Perspective

This theme is something that everyone will be able to relate to, and hopefully adopt into their lives, because our P.O.P is something that has been a part of our existence since we entered the world.

Children

When we were children, our world seemed so large and our problems seemed so small, but on the contrary, when we became adults, our world became so small and our problems became so large.

Think back to elementary school and how the hallways stretched in all directions for miles; and how the tire playground seemed like Mt. Everest; and how someone that was in high school appeared to be an adult.

But if you go back and visit your elementary school today, you would realize that the hallways only seemed gigantic when compared to your little body; that you are able to reach the top of the highest tire while standing on the ground; and that the high school students actually appear to be children in your eyes.

The world was colossal based on our perspective of the surrounding environment. In addition, although our world was immense in size, our problems were petty—we did poorly on an exam, we got denied by our secret admirer, or we were chosen last in gym class. When these occurrences took place, the challenges seemed to be insurmountable, but I guarantee that as time has gone on they have become part of a distant memory.

On the contrary, as we reach adulthood, the dilemmas which surface in our world tend to result in a feeling of stagnation, claustrophobia, and the perspective that we are no longer living the life that we create for ourselves. There are five areas where this tends to surface in the lives of people, but there is also a fundamental solution that will enable you to POP out of it:

Relationships

When two or more people define themselves as in a relationship of any kind, there is always the chance that problems could begin to surface because emotions are now present.A perfect example could take place in a marriage where the couple has lost their internal spark which keeps the relationship alive.

Possible Solution: think about why this relationship began in the first place? What emotions existed during the honeymoon phase? How did it feel if/when you had children?

When did the relationship go astray? Once you answer these questions, I encourage you to take action on the responses by shifting your perspective from a relationship without passion, to one filled with love, intimacy, and a newfound sense of excitement.

Career

As people progress with their career,their job can become their identity. The result is a feeling of emptiness and lack of self worth because you start to associate yourself with whatever role it is that you are assigned.

Solution: find something that enables you to lose track of time.

This could be a hobby, time with your family, traveling, exercise, sports, or simply doing nothing and just being. Whatever activity that you choose must be included in your day for AT LEAST 30 minutes during the week and for an hour each weekend.

Your career does not necessarily need to be what you are passionate about, but something must leave you feeling fulfilled on a daily basis.

Physical Image

When people begin to feel unworthy in their lives, they can start to gain or lose weight because this is an area they feel that they can control.

Possible solution: one that I found works extremely well is to join a support group or develop a one-on-one coaching relationship. My research proves that this challenge has little to do with your physical image, but rather focuses on the emotional barriers in your life.

Most people do not enjoy voyaging alone, which is why a group or coach could empower you to shift your perspective.

Addictions

Addictions can come in many forms including the abuse of drugs or alcohol, spending money outside of our means, self-injury, depression, and anything else that steals our identity.

Possible Solution: Create a personal balance sheet where the assets represent their accomplishments and the liabilities are goals that have yet to be achieved.

I guarantee that if you are honest with yourself, your assets will far outweigh your liabilities, which should shift your perspective and enable you to be proud of the “who you are.”

Minor Events

We are all faced with minor events in our lives that result in frustration, anger, and animosity. But the key to overcoming these issues, and the only solution, is to realize that you cannot control the external events in your life, but you can control your perspective and interpretation of them.

Take a deep breath, calm down, and understand that reacting in a negative manner will bring exactly that into your world –negativity.

Become conscious of whatever is holding you back from reaching the next echelon in your existence by creating a list of challenges that seem to overwhelm you in your everyday life.

This could be a relationship with a difficult child because they are “at that age,” your to-do list which continues to grow, frustrations in your career, being overweight, financial hardships due the poor economic times, or anything else that would fall into the five categories from above.

Now picture yourself 10, 20, and 30 years from now when all of these “challenges” will become distant memories. Once you are able to become mindful of your problems and the ways to make them appear to be “small,” I want you to begin to realize, the same way that you did when you were a child, that your world has the potential to be an extremely large place, with endless opportunities, that stretch as far and wide as the hallways did while in elementary school. This is why it is critical to use your POWER of PERSPECTIVE to guide you on your journey through life.

So, in closing, it is time to use your P.O.P and realize that your problems are only as small as you allow them to be, while your world is only as large as your ability to dream.

About The Author: Jared Yellin is a motivational speaker, writer, and the founder of Brandentity LLC., which focuses on combining your BRAND + IDENTITY in order to empower you to realize what makes you…you.

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  • Henri December 12, 2009, 6:10 am

    I like it Jared. I can remember back to when I was 7-8 years old and running around in school, the halls were enormous. When I returned a few years ago the halls were tiny. The perspective change is awesome.

    One of the most important things in relationships for me is honesty and being able to handle it and accept each other. That means being honest about the fact that you do find other people attractive and all of those things that most people try to avoid. Take it to the next level instead of avoiding hurting your ego.

    If you’re feeling empty inside because of your career you’re most likely not following your true path. That was the case for me and when I switched to something for aligned with who I am, I immediately began feeling a lot better. If I will be doing this for the rest of my life, who knows?

    Life ebbs and flows, comes and goes 😉

    • Jared Yellin December 12, 2009, 10:43 am

      Henri…I am so happy that you enjoyed the message! It is a liberating feeling to reach a place in your relationship where both partners can be 100% honest with one another regardless of what they are sharing. I admire your ability to create this bond and I hope you cherish each other forever.

      I also commend you for making the transition to doing what you love and loving what you do in your career. Unfortunately, many people are unable to awake each morning with newfound energy and spirit for the day to come. Whether or not you are able to touch these emotions in your world is unknown to me, but I admire your ability to find alignment with the who you are!

      Thank you for your contributions!!!!!

  • Kristin December 12, 2009, 11:49 am

    Jared- What a great way of looking at our place in the world and our position within our circumstances realistically but positively! When the world is as large to you as is it to a child, the possibilities are endless, as you say. And when you remember that everything isn’t as big as it seems, those possibilities also seem a lot closer than they did as a child. What a lovely paradox. The size of the world is at my command 🙂

    • Jared Yellin December 13, 2009, 3:42 pm

      AWESOME interpretation of this article Kristin! It is a simple concept, yet difficult to implement, but I believe that chunking it down and reminiscing the way our world was perceived as a child will enable even more people to POP out of it faster than ever before! Thank you for your contributions!

  • Srinivas Rao December 12, 2009, 12:20 pm

    Jared,

    This is a great message and a really nice way of explaining perception. My favorite part was about problem seeming so much bigger than they really are. I also think you really made a great point of talking about finding something that allows to lose track of time. A few weeks back I quit a job after 6 months of trying to find one because my heart just wasn’t in it. I realized that if I’m so miserable in the first two weeks it was only going to get worse. I’ve focused my efforts on growing my blog, and the mean time finding a job that will complement the work I’m doing on my own. Essentially I’m looking for that thing which allows me to lose track of time because I’m enjoying it. Regarding distant memories, it’ amazing that even things that happen less than a few weeks ago are already distant memories, and that gives me the idea for my next blog post 🙂

    • Jared Yellin December 13, 2009, 3:47 pm

      Srinivas…I am so happy that you were able to takeaway a variety of lessons and some inspiration for your next blog post. I commend you for taking the leap of faith and seeking to find something that enables you to POP out of bed in the morning with newfound energy and excitement. Please keep me posted as you progress and I will actually be posting a message about seeking a passionate career on my blog either next week or the following…check it out!!!

  • Armine December 13, 2009, 10:02 am

    Hi Jared,

    as always, was interesting to read your article.

    Armine

    • Jared Yellin December 13, 2009, 3:43 pm

      I am so happy that you enjoyed Armine…so not it is time to get POPPING!!!!!

  • Debbie Ferm December 13, 2009, 8:07 pm

    OK Josh,

    I went to Wikipedia and they said that a common competition is a “Two kettlebell jerk and one kettlebell snatch” and I know the only reason you are into kettlebells is so that you can say things like that. It explains everything.

  • Elizabeth December 16, 2009, 12:57 pm

    Wonderful post!

    I had an eye opener myself about a year ago. There’s a song my dad liked that had the line “To be a child again and have no worries on my mind…” and that’s what I think of when I think of children. Then one Sunday, the pastor asked if any of us had had a hard time in our lives. My then 5 yr old daughter raised her hand!! I thought, “What?!” I asked her about it later and she said, “That time I got all those frowny faces…” She’s a talker and frequently gets in trouble at school for talking. Which means she gets in trouble at home too. But her saying that opened my eyes up to the fact that, while their worries may seem small to me, they really are quite large to them. As a mom, I believe I need to be mindful of that if I want to keep communication lines open as she gets older.

    • Jared Yellin December 18, 2009, 9:53 pm

      I am so happy that you enjoyed the message Elizabeth and thank you for sharing your story as well. It is an enlightening moment when we are able to relate with the youth of the world because what I have seen happen is that the further removed me get, the less we understand. Your daughter just empowered you to open your eyes wider than ever before and I admire your ability to let this happen….

      Have a wonderful holiday season and a very happy new year!